THE VOICES IN MY HEAD ARE WHISPERING, 'EAT THE ICE CREAM!....'
WILL POWER/ WON’T POWER
Choose your goal over temptations… one step at a time.
Forever is a very long time.
If it were easy to do something forever, there would be no divorces!
So, if you decide to give up smoking/ boozing/ sweeties, the thought of NEVER having another drink/ ciggy/ cream bun can be daunting.
Alcoholics on the 12-step recovery programme take one day at a time. Sometimes even that’s a stretch. We need to tackle bad habits an hour at a time, or 5 minutes at a time.
If you tell yourself you CAN’T have something, you often obsess about the ‘forbidden’ item. Instead of telling yourself you WON’T eat ice cream, tell yourself you can… but that you prefer not to.
Psychologists say it’s more effective to tell yourself you can have a tempting ‘naughty’ object – but you CHOOSE not to – at this moment.
If your goal is to lose weight/ give up drink/ stop smoking, you need to keep choosing your goal over the immediate temptation. And if nothing is totally forbidden, it may be less enticing.
* That bar of chocolate does not have power over you.
* That bottle of wine does not have power over you.
* That cigarette does not have power over you.
You are in control. It’s your choice.
This approach also makes it easier if you’ve fallen off the wagon. Instead of totally giving up as soon as you have one night of gorging, allow yourself the blip… & start eating sensibly again the next day.
Once you’ve reached your goal, things get easier.
EG: If you’ve reached your goal weight, you can add ‘treats.’ As long as you eat well most of the time, you can indulge in occasional cakes, chocs & glasses (not vats) of wine.
Give yourself permission to ‘fail’ occasionally. None of us are perfect. Just keep focusing on your goal and you will get there… one positive choice, at a time!
I CAN RESIST EVERYTHING BUT TEMPTATION
AND FINALLY - A POLE DANCING BABY BEAR CUB. REALLY.